People act like being single is the worst fate imaginable. I see them plunging into relationship after relationship, pining desperately in between. I see them staying with partners who mistreat them, even to the point of actual abuse. And I try not to judge. I used to be one of them.
As a single person, I have no one telling me my partner is cheating on me because he hugged some lady at Red Lobster. I don't get accused of cheating. I don't get accused of being stupid enough to be tricked into cheating. Nobody gets upset if I'm not "in the mood". Best part - nobody cheats on me.
As a single person, I can pursue my own interests. I no longer feel the need to pretend to be someone I'm not. I see a lot of men and women losing themselves for the sake of a relationship.
As a single person, I don't live in fear of being beaten. I did always draw the line at physical abuse, but a lot of people seem to prefer it to being single.
A healthy relationship is a fantastic thing. One with mutual respect and good communication and lots of sex if you're so inclined. But far too many of us are not holding out for that. There are worse things than being single.
And no, I do not want you to set me up with your cousin Bob.
