People act like being single is the worst fate imaginable. I see them plunging into relationship after relationship, pining desperately in between. I see them staying with partners who mistreat them, even to the point of actual abuse. And I try not to judge. I used to be one of them.
As a single person, I have no one telling me my partner is cheating on me because he hugged some lady at Red Lobster. I don't get accused of cheating. I don't get accused of being stupid enough to be tricked into cheating. Nobody gets upset if I'm not "in the mood". Best part - nobody cheats on me.
As a single person, I can pursue my own interests. I no longer feel the need to pretend to be someone I'm not. I see a lot of men and women losing themselves for the sake of a relationship.
As a single person, I don't live in fear of being beaten. I did always draw the line at physical abuse, but a lot of people seem to prefer it to being single.
A healthy relationship is a fantastic thing. One with mutual respect and good communication and lots of sex if you're so inclined. But far too many of us are not holding out for that. There are worse things than being single.
And no, I do not want you to set me up with your cousin Bob.
I was single for a long time and I loved it! I had no problems going to restaurants by myself or doing things on my own. I indulged all my curiosities on topics that interested me. I didn't do a lot of traveling on my own but I wish that I did. Others seemed to be more worried for my single state than I was!
ReplyDeleteI am now part of a couple and have been that for long time too! Be part of a couple was a hard adjustment for me I think because I liked being single. I wasn't use to someone worrying if I was OK if I took the longest way home. I didn't have to inform anyone of a change in schedule and I didn't have to think about what effect what I decided had on someone else. For me it was easy to read a ton of books because I didn't have to communicate with someone else. Oh and that piece of pie stayed there until I was ready to eat it!
There are benefits of being in a couple...and a couple that is equal.
Have someone who knows me well enough to know what I might not see and address it or what I might forget and see to it, to balance out my shortcomings and love me in spite of my faults. Oh and I have many! And to help me out by" eating that pie so that it didn't go bad on me."
I guess what I am really saying is that you need to enjoy where you are! Make the best of where you are! Don't judge others for their choices because it makes you feel better about yours.